So, we’re about five weeks into The Bachelor and if last night’s episode doesn’t make you a Juan Pablo hater, I don’t know what will.
On his group date in Vietnam (“a great place to fall in love!” said nobody ever) Juan Pablo got a little extra cozy with Clare. Despite showing up with a fake pregnant belly on premiere night and having one serious set of crazy-eyes, Clare has been a favorite of Juan Pablo’s since the beginning. He’s tried to stay pretty hands-off with the women, denying several of them kisses because he doesn’t want his young daughter watching the show and thinking bad things about her daddy (who has been dating more than 20 women at once) but he’s never hands-off with Clare. He even took her aside on the group date for a secret dip in the pool. And by “dip in the pool” I mean lots of mostly-naked groping. But that was only the beginning.
At about four o’clock in the morning, Clare slipped out of her suite and made her way over to Juan Pablo’s to “thank him” (cough) for the time they spent together. She also wanted to take a swim in the warm Vietnamese ocean with him. So they did. Then they totally had all the sex.
At the cocktail party the next evening, poor Clare was on cloud nine until Juan Pablo had a serious case of sex regret and took her aside to tell her so. As he rejected her in the worst way possible, Clare sobbed. He told her to stop crying. She cried more. It was really, really painful to watch. Seriously. Here is some of their conversation:
Clare: Nobody knew I snuck out the other day.
Juan Pablo: I hope nobody knows.
Juan Pablo: That was good, but at the same time…that was kind of weird for me.
Clare: In the ocean?
Juan Pablo: The whole situation. A little bit.
Clare: What do you mean?
Juan Pablo: Because…I’m too fair. With people. There’s 10 other people who I have to dedicate my time. And I’m getting to know all of you. So maybe…it wasn’t right. But what happened happened already…why’re you looking at me like that?
Clare tells him that she doesn’t think it’s about what’s fair or not. She acted from her heart and it felt right. But Juan Pablo tells her, oh no, it’s not just about being fair. It’s also because we looked slutty.
Juan Pablo: It’s not only about being fair. It’s got more to it than that. For example, I have a daughter. To me it’s hard, this whole situation, if she sees it. If she sees what happened, I don’t think it would be…too nice.
Clare: Between you and I?
Juan Pablo: Yeah. Doing that…
Then Clare starts to cry and apologize and he shushes her and says, “Stop crying, can you stop crying for me?” and “Look at me, I don’t like it when you don’t look at me” like one hundred times. It’s gross. AND THEN, oh my God. He follows her outside when she runs off to cry some more and he says to her, “Hey, it happened. I don’t want to talk about it anymore. Just delete it.”
I mean, what the f*ck is that? Way to make her feel guilty for something you were totally into at the time. Way to make her feel ashamed of herself, stupid, foolish. God, what a complete ass. Even typically-neutral host Chris Harrison thinks Juan Pablo acted like a d*ck, telling TV Guide, “When [Clare] showed up he was fully into it like this is awesome and sexy and she was as happy as can be and then he turns around and treats her like all of a sudden she did something wrong and broke the rules. It was not only confusing, but it was borderline rude. We even told him as much, but he didn’t see it that way. Even though he apologized later I don’t think he really understood how cheap he made her feel. ”
And that’s the worst part: Juan Pablo doesn’t seem to understand why his actions were hurtful – and he likely won’t take any of the blame, either. If the other bachelorettes find out – and if they don’t, they’ll know at the reunion taping – they are bound to slut shame Clare until their throats are sore. But let’s get real: what Clare did wasn’t easy or slutty. She spent the night with a man she’s been dating for more than a month. It’s not so unheard of. But unfortunately, Clare isn’t in the real world. She’s on The Bachelor.